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My boss and I have an ongoing debate about 1:1 meetings. Specifically, we disagree on how frequent they should be to be in order to be effective. So: how often should I have 1:1s?
It depends on the individual. Some people prefer more frequent check-ins and more accountability; others prefer to check in less frequently. It’s important to work with your direct reports to figure out a rhythm of 1:1s that feels good to both of you. You also need to pay attention to their performance and make sure that you are meeting with people enough to keep them on track, and have a clear understanding of where they are spending their time. We would recommend a minimum of once every 2 weeks. As long as you can be present and focused in these conversations, you will find that you build connection with your direct reports and create certainty for both of you that they are on the right track.
I spent over 15 years working in a finance role that I hated, but have since left my employment because the stress was too much. I would like to get back to work and find a career that excites me rather than depresses me. I have tried the exercise where I list the activities that made me feel good and those that made me feel bad, but I didn't really gain much insight. The positive ones are that I feel strong when I know what to do and the negative ones are that I feel weak when I don't know what to do. How do I choose a new career that is right for me?
Please give the exercise another try. You've got to go deeper with your reflections. Pay attention to your everyday actions and start noticing the times when you feel strong after an activity—when you feel that you could do it again right away. Notice when you are curious about something you see on TV or are particularly intrigued by an article in the paper or a magazine. What subjects do you find yourself turning the radio up to hear more about? What jobs have you circled in the paper and why? The answers lie in your everyday weekly activities.