I came across this list in the book "Positive Psychology Coaching" by Robert Biswas-Diener (leaning my coaching more and more towards Appreciative Coaching/Positive Coaching - anyone else out there coach with this lens?) 

Self Actualization Behaviours:

1. Experiences of flow states that represent total absorption and selflessness
2. Make daily choices that move one toward growth and away from defensiveness
3. Have knowledge of and the ability to listen to one's true self
4. Honesty
5. A deep sense of understanding of one's mission, destiny, and primary relationships
6. An ongoing dedication to personal growth even if this means difficult practices and choices
7. Setting up peak experiences, in part by understanding what to avoid in one's weaknesses and lack of potential
8. Engaging in self-reflection to better understand one's preferences, identity, behaviours leanings, bad habits, and other aspects of self
9. "Re-sacralization." That is, breathing a sense of wonder, sacredness, and true understanding into one's perception of the world, into one's relationships, and into one's actions.

Love this list. How did you fare with the list? I'm certainly a work in progress. I particularly like #9. I hadn't ever had a word for that thing I do when I stare out at the world in complete awe. As a strengths strategist, I now understand that the work that I do with leaders to help them live a stronger life is also helping them to self-actualize. (I guess I already knew it but hadn't made the comparison before)

Here are some good questions for your clients, help them to understand how deeply their connected to their development: 

"How much time do you reserve in a typical week for self-reflection?" or "What would happen if, when you made choices, you asked yourself "How will this choice lead to my own personal growth?" or "When do you have the hardest time being honest with others? With yourself?"

Coaches, what other questions would you ask?