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One of my strengths statements is: I feel strong when I transform a cluttered or disorganized area into uncluttered order.
I love having my work space uncluttered, where I can see open desk and cabinet space. And if I inherit an area that's not that way, I love turning it into uncluttered order. An important point, though, is that I DON'T like doing this if it involves debating, convincing, or arguing with someone over why items should be removed, thrown out, given away, etc. Even though I love creating uncluttered order, if conflict gets injected into the mix, it totally loses its strengthening power, and becomes a weakness.
It is critically important to make these fine distinctions in activities that make you feel strong or weak; the seemingly little differences are huge when it comes to defining strengths and weaknesses.
Thank you for articulating that distinction. While practical experience makes clear that conflicted or contested transformation is a whole different game than uncontested, I often forget that in the theoretical stages... Do you think that there may be people with strengths in persuasion who would see the conflicted experience as yet another area to transform?
Yes, I do. If someone has an Influencer role in their StandOut assessment, or Command or Developer in their StrengthsFinder themes, they may actually relish the opportunity to persuade a person to get rid of some clutter in an organizing project.
I feel strong when I am teaching and training someone in new tasks or creating original works. It's no accident that my main passions are reading, writing, traveling, learning new languages, and trawling around the social media sites (there is good to this, if you look for it). And it was also no accident that I was chosen as a company ambassador during the peak season. That experience confirmed for me that training and teaching are where my strengths lie, and that I should apply for a year-round ambassador opportunity if one is available (which I did).
Call me if you need someone to be convinced to get rid of the clutter, and then you can step in and do the organizing!
I have Influencer AND Stimulator as my two Standout Talents, and I am drawn to conflict. Not because I like drama, but because conflict stands in the way of action. When someone doesn't want to act I'm like a bug drawn to a light...
Now, doing the actual organizing? That's where I would need you!
Now, the double edge to my sword would be that I will compromise getting my way for the sake of a relationship. The relationship is more important to me. I would rather slowly chip away at an ice berg through trust building and connecting than sacrifice the connection to get my way now.
Thanks for sharing this. Your statement that "conflict stands in the way of action" reflects Influencer. Very interesting.
I feel strong when I meet goals before deadlines (which I seldom do)
I feel strong when I talk about things which interests me.
I can really relate!! Prime example; I started a new job (internal job change in same organization) and moved into a new office... Old chairs, no computer, shabby looking desk... I thought oh my what am I in for spending 40 hrs a week in here??!!
I began to transform it and you wouldn't believe how it looks now... Eventually a new chair, computer, etc.
I brought in 2 lamps from home... much better than the flourescent lighting everyone else uses that I think suck your brain energy and leave you tired...
I also sit in the chair where my students sit when they come to see me... and then I get a chance to see it from their view...
I have pictures up to show a little personality... sports figures, my diploma, etc. My office is much more comfortable.
THere is a giant filing cabinet I wanted out right away and after trying unsuccesfully @ least 3 times w/ my boss to remove it I finally accepted it will have to stay and did my best to hide it in the corner. I also noticed that in several offices around me they have these beautiful windows with sunlight, yet they close the blinds... I have no idea why deprive yourself of natural light!!
Thanks for your comment!! got my wheels turning.
You're welcome. Thanks for sharing your example. Be strong!